Emotional OVERLOAD MOVIE #1

How to empty your emotional bucket

Let me know what you think... please leave a comment for me below

Lee Anne Colas

This is such a simple idea....somewhat counter-intuitive, but it does help.

skybennett0808

I enjoyed this new movie very much and that it incorporated the 12 second Chill. One thing which interested me was this - The first time I did the 12 Second Chill I realised I had 'thought (mind) 'what do I feel?' and because I had a difficult day yesterday I started to feel tearful. The 2nd time I did it I felt (not thought), where and how my body was feeling. My body gave me a feeling of sadness, and I noticed a constriction in my throat ....understandable I guess. So, OK, was it my body, the first time instantly TELLING my mind that that what how it felt, and my mind finding out in my body the second time, how my body felt and where I was feeling it? I hope I'm making sense?

Lois Deupree

Not sure how this will help me. I tried it, but it seems like there should be a lot more with this. Maybe that is still coming. This is not enough to get where I want to be

Maria Luisa Aviles

I think I did it wrong. Not sure.

Marlene Trainor

Hi the 12second chill worked, but i need a lot more practice

Patrick Cadle

Cool! Thanks

Robert Desbiens

Dear Suzanne, it's an absolute pleasure to watch your video. You remind me of a dear friend I haven't met yet and I smile and giggle along with your infectious attitude.

I've come to a version of the "12 Second Chill" through Cesar Milan, the Dog Whisperer. I started to identify the similarities between how my body and nervous system respond with the methods Cesar uses to interrupt the aggressive Mind in a dog. He uses a brief verbal "Tssst" to snap the dog's mind out of the fixation and back to the impetus of the pack leader, himself. In my meditation I was attempting to "be" the pack leader to my own animal body and used the command "Stay"... like I was training a dog. Holding attention on the body until the nervous system comes back to the zone.

I'm thrilled to find out that humans are starting to work with and understand their own "Anima" in strikingly similar ways. I've always worked with a therapist to deal with emotional trauma of childhood abuse but usually have to keep the therapist up to speed because I could sense more with my body than I could ever uncover in an hour long talking session. And financial limitations have lead me to be very creative in how I "treat" myself.

Thanks to people like yourself and Elaine N. Aron "The Highly Sensitive Person", I'm starting to, for the first time in my life, see an open heart at the end of the tunnel, rather than the head light of the train! Thank you so much for your efforts to share what you've found with the rest of us, I'm devouring your website and looking forward to more.

Best, Robert

Judy S. Risley

I did feel more relaxes second time around. This is first time I've researched the reptilian stem part of the brain and storage of fear therein. It is a fascinating study. Thank you for the helpful but simple solution to overreacting. As you said, when I'm in overwhelm, the first words out of my mouth are sharp and irritable so I have lots of work to do here.

Daniel Fz

I feel that my body is ok, but not my head that pulsates and the excessive worry dont stop.

Nkongme Nathalia

i like it

Margaret Luts

Enjoyed "feeling" my inner body rather than thinking about how it feels.

Darlene Bates Camis

The timing could not be better for this. I was looking for ways to be more in charge of my emotions. This is the best method. Simple and powerful! !! Thank u

Jocelyn Van Nes

tried n true, excellent

Pat Ahl

I appreciate the mindful exercise and learning to get in touch with the body. Looking forward to learning more.

Deneen Gipson

Loved it!

Jennifer Odegard

Nice job on the videos. Lots of great information here...thank you.

Donna Cohen

Glad to have the opportunity to try the Chill twice. 12 seconds was initially too long and I felt too uncomfortable. Next time a little better but hated the residual body chills afterwards.

Michelle Thompson

My body freezes unexpectedly at times. I freeze and collapse. It's a reptilian type of response and very scary. You had the best description of this in your notes but i'm not sure this method addresses my response. Anything else to add? Thanks Michelle

Shrinklady

Hi Michelle, if I was sitting with you, I'd be saying "It's okay" and the sound of my voice might help you to know that. The freeze response is a normal function of the nervous system and it happens when we're full. (Our nervous system "bucket" fills up with too much stimulation and we can't let go to release the energy. This is a common trauma response.)

If you can find yourself in a safe and comfortable place and to allow the sensations to gently move through you - for only a few seconds at a time - you may find yourself coming out of it and feeling better than you went in.

The idea is to allow the freeze and the accompanying collapse so the body can gently shift the energy. When this would happen to me, I'd be curled up on the couch just after a nice hot bath with my favourite blanket. I'd be able to allow a tiny bit of the sensations for a few seconds at a time.

If this is too uncomfortable for you, consider seeing a body based therapist who will help you to titrate (ie. baby step) your way through. (Having a person (i.e. a second nervous system) near you can help make you feel safe.

It's important to give yourself permission to move through these sensations as they are no doubt compromising your life (and your health). Many people who have this experience also report having less energy than other others they see around them. I hope that helps.
Susan

Susan Carlson

The pain in my heart is constant and excruciating. This exercise did nothing to help...I feel like I can"t stand it.

Shrinklady

Hi Susan, your default move before you begin should be in getting your body to a super comfortable place (in a comfy place). Then you'd need to work with the pain in little bits at a time (http://goto.myShrink.com/titration).

In fact, working with another area of your body first and getting it strengthened is advisable especially when the pain is severe. Then follow what I suggest in the next movie - go back and forth between a comfy or resourced area as you work with small amounts of the pain. In effect, you'd be building your capacity to tolerate more and more over time.
Susan LaCombe

Tayyeba Ishtiaq

well! this is informative...i think i am a kinna person always in CRISIS....i have to react over things, if i dont, that tension builds up on my mind....and i regret the moment when i didnt react to something (may be to avoid an argument with a friend) unpleasant....i have lived away from my parents for studies...and that was the time when i realized i have problems...i was a pampered child at home, when i had to go out i made no friends...bcoz the thing ran over my mind "bcoz she is doing the things i dunt do, so we cant go along"....still not grown up...

Erin Bennett

Thank you for sharing this video. I listened to it while I was driving (!) and I could feel a difference in my emotional state even after just 12 seconds!

P Augustinus Sta Maria

This is awesome... it helps to relax the mind... you can feel the beating of your heart... it really works... it's phenomenal...

Yvonne Dantzler Pace

I incorporated prayer and this was a good attiude to enter into prayer with, take time to mediate on my "flesh" or body and understand that i am more that just a body that tends to allow my emotional bucket to over load. As a result of what I hear my body "saying" I hear what the Lord is saying to me during that 12 seconds chill!