The 12-Second Chill
When you're trying to cope with a crisis you need a strategy that works fast. Unless you get your feelings settled, you'll have a hard time getting your mind in gear.
Here's a simple technique that'll take the edge off any pent up feelings. The first few seconds are the toughest - after that, each "Chill" moment gets easier.
Practice repeatedly and this body-based strategy will even increase your tolerance to stress.
Note the expression on my face the third time I did it. I really dropped into my tiredness.
That's okay—I was tired.
It's like the adrenaline that was pumping my system—and keeping me up past my bedtime to do this video—had now left my body.
In a situation like this it helps to allow your body to drop even further—to go into the "tired". (You'd be following your body's natural inclination.)
So if I had the time and was so inclined what would be really helpful to my nervous system would be to continue tracking inside my body during this tired period.
In doing so, I'm literally helping to reset my nervous system at a new lower level.
This is exactly what you want. It'll take more practice sessions of course to achieve this new set-point—that's what you should be aiming for though.